Ego-Death; the benefits of meditation and not thinking.
Today I was having a conversation in another group about being mentally “present” and the value of not constantly thinking. This women’s guides were telling her she thought to much and it was making her upset because she didn’t understand what they were trying to say. She felt (like many people do) that to stop thinking would be to lose her identity. But it doesn’t do that. It expands upon and changes your thinking, it expands upon your identity. It’s almost like being born again, but you don’t lose your old memories and personality.This conversation, took me back to my 2nd ego-death that I experienced in April 2014. I forget that it can be a scary thing to experience for some people, unless your living in a mental nightmare -than it is a welcome relief! It’s not something to be afraid of although it does create a profound inner shift.
“Long-term meditators have brains that are wired for positive emotions”.-Shawn Achor
What do I mean when I say a mental nightmare? Well here is an example of one nightmare I wanted to awake from. The thoughts and beliefs that made me feel I was worthless because that was at the heart of many problems I had drawn to my life at that time. I was trying to change but I couldn’t change my mind or my deeply held beliefs about myself. I had been trying to fix this for a long time to change my thoughts, beliefs, and attitude, but I was in a mental prison that I could not break out of and I was in a lot of pain. When we take the time to examine our beliefs and where they come from we learn that we adopt our beliefs about many things early on in life from our family and from what they told us and how they treated us. If we were told we were beautiful we are loved and lovely than we grow up believing that. We carry ourselves differently. We talk with confidence, we look people in the eye, we take care of our bodies, we smile more, we carry our body confidently which leads to positive outcomes for yourself. There is a lot of research out there that shows that being pretty, confident, and happy definitely leads to better success and outcome in life. I think it’s pretty common sense right?
“The more you believe in your own ability to succeed, the more likely it is that you will.” -Shawn Achor
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2)
The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.-Eckhart Tolle